Comments on: DAD says, “No, I Didn’t Take the Day Off to Be Home With My Son” https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son Navigating Fatherhood Together Fri, 09 Dec 2022 22:05:59 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Anonymous https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4287 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:40:04 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4287 @Your Stay At Home Dad…It’s me, Anonymous

I read the post you referenced, and I think you hit the nail on the head. As a stay at home dad, you feel self conscious and like all eyes are on you. Chances are, if you are going about your business in a “normal” way, no one even takes notice. They just want to push their carts up and down the aisle and go home like everyone else. Now if you’re kids are screaming, throwing a tantrum or running down the aisles slinging poo, that may grab shoppers attention :-). As men, we feel like we have to be the “bread winner” and justify why we’re home on a weekday afternoon with our kids. Oh and BTW, I find your story much more believable than Seth’s.

If anything when I do something together with my son in a public place like a park or super market, I usually get smiles from other people. I think they are happy to see a father spending time with his son.

]]> By: Your Stay At Home Dad https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4286 Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:12:28 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4286 Wow, what is it about Trader Joe’s? I, too, had a similar experience there. You can read about it here: http://yourstayathomedad.com/neurosis/self-loathing-in-trader-joes/ I’ve been a stay at home dad for a year and a half now and it’s tough dealing with people who look down their nose at you. I love the way you turned it around on her. It probably really made her think. Kudos to you, sir. You make me proud to be a stay at home dad (even if the story is fake or embellished, Anonymous) I’ve been subject to similar remarks and I’d wished I could’ve handled it with the class and panache that Seth exhibited with “Mrs. Hedgefund.” (Raising my glass) I say, here, here.

]]> By: Anonymous https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4285 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:17:40 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4285 Nice to see that questioning the validity of the internet has become so trendy. All you would be sociologists should know that although air guitar is fake, air guitarists are real!

]]> By: Anonymous https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4284 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 20:17:12 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4284 I’m not saying he didn’t encounter a woman who questioned why he was home during the day and not at work. The part I don’t believe is how she admitted her husband was an absentee dad who was more interesting in working. That seems like he embellished the story a bit. A little too convenient. Plus how can anyone who proclaims themselves as an air guitar champion be taken seriously? Seriously. Only Judah Freilander can get away with that. And if she’s the typical wife of a hedge fund manager, they have “people” who do their grocery shopping. She would be at home abusing prescription drugs, drinking wine and organizing a sex toy party or some sort of fund raiser to stop the senseless slaughter of garden squirrels.

And shame on Seth for being so pretentious and shopping at Trader Joes. Why didn’t he offer to wipe the booger ridden child’s nose with an organic, aloe infused tissue that comes from a tissue box made of 100% recycled paper. That’s what any decent stay at home, air guitar champion, super dad would do.

And can someone tell me what the F Joe Joe’s are?

Working father, who is only a semi professional air guitarist.

]]> By: ATC https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4283 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:37:54 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4283 I can think of one reason a dad might feel the need to overcompensate with a large hedge fund.

]]> By: Anonymous https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4282 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:58:14 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4282 In reply to Anonymous.

Well Anonymous, perhaps if your child had boogers you would find this story more believable. Why do you find this fake? So many mothers/wives with working husbands are so caught up in this fantasy world that their views are so narrow.

]]> By: Anonymous https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4281 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:52:22 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4281 I believed Seth’s story till the part about the woman’s husband being a hedge fund manager and the kid saying the girl had boogies in her nose. That seems fake and made up. Sorry, I don’t believe Seth.

Working father of non boogerfied child

]]> By: Anonymous https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4280 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:31:36 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4280 Wow, I think this is my life! Seth I am a full time stay at home dad, special education teacher, and Air Guitar Championship wanna be!! Plus I have been stopped in Trader Joe’s. Could this be the Matrix?
Jason

]]> By: Henry https://citydadsgroup.com/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4279 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:08:26 +0000 http://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2012/02/07/dad-says-no-i-didnt-take-the-day-off-to-be-home-with-my-son/#comment-4279 Great post! I think the most recent data shows that dads make up just 8% of the stay at home parent population. While that percentage is growing, it’s still such a new concept to many.

I’m making a career switch to be a SAHD and very much looking forward to it. I’m sure I’ll run into situations like you just wrote about. In the meantime, my mother in law is giving us much grief about it… http://goo.gl/kssmV

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