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America: The Morning After is the First Day of the Rest of Your Life

July 5, 2017 by Whit Honea

America
(Photo: Gabby Orcutt | Unsplash)

AMERICA, July 5 — Today, tired and sunburnt, we share our national walk of shame, showing up to work with freedom on our lips and barbecue on our collars. Our collective voices are hoarse from loud laughter and big ideas. However, today is reality, where passion lives among the stoic, and retweets are once again our currency. Everywhere is apple pie in plastic wrap.

Yesterday was all parades and fireworks: The kids running wild through the stereotypes, us with amber waves of grain alcohol. Together, we shared our collective greatness, making every lawn a soapbox where we proudly wore our patriotic T-shirts from Old Navy (thank one Nation under God, they still fit from last year). For a moment America actually felt great again, and that felt great.

But today the ceasefire is over. We return to the bipartisan trenches as dictated by the rules we all agreed to in the latest operating system update.

The truth is, July 5, 1776, wasn’t that much different from today. Granted, there was far less Lee Greenwood but the confusion, obstacles, division and hardship? That was a thing, even if nobody posted it on Facebook.

While the signing of the Declaration of Independence is considered the birth of a nation, the news was not available in real-time to the masses. It took months for word to reach the far corners of the country. Meanwhile, the British were not going to let a piece of autographed paper trigger a reverse Brexit, no matter how much they all loved Hamilton.

It was a long, hard year, and yet America persisted.

We are still persisting.

These are the conversations I have with my boys, faced as they are with the never-ending onslaught of bad news that is anything but fake. I try to use history to show them that our country has been in conflict before and such times, these times, impossible though they may seem, often make the great things possible. It wasn’t always a musical.

Which is to say that I want my boys to fight. Not in some foreign war for oil and ego, but in the battles being waged here, every single moment. Why? Because they are white boys who will one day be white men, and it would be far too easy to sit back and let privilege guide them by the blinders. Far too easy.

Easy is not an option.

It’s time to get your hands dirty, boys.

Yesterday was a day to celebrate America: celebrate not its perfection, but rather its promise. And promise, after all, is a thing worth celebrating.

Today, however, is about fulfilling that promise, the fight for a better tomorrow and every day that follows. Today is one more chance to step in the right direction, toward purple mountains and everything.

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Filed Under: education, events, National Tagged With: Fourth of July, holidays, humor, life lessons, politics, sons

About Whit Honea

Whit Honea is author of The Parents' Phrase Book, co-founder of Dads 4 Change and frequent contributor to City Dads Group's Modern Dads Podcast. He lives in the greater Los Angeles area with his wife, two sons, and lots of pets. Now with added Facebook and Twitter!

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  1. S. Cuff says

    July 5, 2017 at 10:22 am

    A men….you can drop the mike now…

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